Jan 11, 2022
It's very common to see friends, neighbors and the community showing empathy and recognizing the challenges and plights children with disabilities go through. Sometimes, people will make a lot of sacrifices to reach out to this child, to encourage and motivate the child to understand that disability is not the end of the road, and let them know that more can be achieved even with a disability. Why all the effort?
The reasons are observe, when a child has a disability, the child will experience personal, social, economical, psychological and emotional challenges, it could be not having a place within the family circle, little or interaction in school or in the community, having feelings of growing up to be a liability because of no job opportunities, inaccessibility issues, the reality of not having a suitable mate when it's time for marriage. These are some of torn that hunt every child with disability as they grow aspiring to be better in the future. Infact every child with disability has experienced one or two of those challenges no matter whether you are poor or rich, black or white,in Africa or in Europe.
Sadly, parents are never seen experiencing those challenges but will always be encouraged to be a support system for the child with a disability. But then, do you know that when a disability is born, it's the parents who first become traumatized, who is rejected,who is marginalized, isolated, blamed and cursed? They start asking themselves what they did wrong, the family members start questioning them, the community start rejecting and isolating from them and the society denials inclusion for them, yes that's what parents go through. Infact,a mother will experience twice as more of these challenges than the child with disability until death. Yes, that's what these beloved parents of children with disabilities go through.
So, do you think they need encouragement too? Do they need psycho-Social Support? Do they need capacity building? Do they deserve a support system too? Yes,yes and yes, they need it, they will need encouragement not to give up no matter the situation, they will need psycho-Social Support to bring a balance in their mental health, they need training about disability, how to support and accommodate disability and will be motivated to know that they can count on other parents, individuals and different organizations for support.
Therefore, let's recognize the fact that, breaking of barriers and actions for inclusion shouldn't start with the children with disabilities but rather with the parents and if that is attained, it will be easier for the parents to transfer and transform the lives of their children with disabilities. But if not, what many homes experience today with children with disabilities is as the results of these gaps.
So, if we want to see a society of supportive, confident, inclusive and smart children with disabilities,let's begin with the parents.