ALWAYS CHECK ON YOUR QUIET FRIENDS GBV IS SO REAL
Nov 17, 2024
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margizuu
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say NO to GBV . always check on your quiet friends they need you
GBV to me is a pandemic that affects women and most women wont talk loud about it for fear of what friends, families and society will think about her!! the society expect women to persevere, be patient no matter the abuse and beatings the society and so called friends will only know when its too late .so my friend poppy was married to a man i thought was her soul mate they had the most beautiful wedding attend by both sides of the family. poppy's husband was from canada i tell you guys people used to admire them especially when poppy's husband visits her and the family from canada they were the talk of community .there is this mythology about marrying outside your race especially white you are considered special and you have a new status in the community ( story for another day) so after poppy was married they had to do a spousal visa that took over 2 years as they were waiting for the visa the husband would visit her as they enjoyed their romantic married they would post beautiful pictures expressing their love for each other make those cute vlogs about what they are doing their love was so romantic and legit that you could not suspect that sweet poppy was going through abuse behind those cute pictures and videos. after poppy got her visa approved she moved to canada to live with the man of her dreams she was very happy i still remember the smile on her face . a year after poppy moved to canada she stopped posting her beautiful moment's on social media she went fro a jovial beautiful out going girl to no show kind of girl . first i thought she was having time out a way from social media but i got concerned when she hasten posted for over six months !! i then took matters to my hand tried reaching out to her family who also had no idea were poppy was . poppy used to talk to her family every day thats what the family informed me but that changed to once a day then nothing thats when i knew something was not right .as i was thinking of what next i thought about writing email to her i had her contact , the email was never replied but one day i i get this email from poppy that broke my heart i couldn't believe what she wrote me , poppy was that Canadian man's slave , she was not allowed to go outside , she was stopped from talking to her family her phone was confiscated same to her travel documents, she was being weighted every time she eat and threated with this words 'if you get fat i will divorce you' she was forced into sexual activities that i cannot explain in words here because it so inhumane ! followed with rape every night and day she would be put-on cage like some animal forced to wear kids clothing's that evil man then one day did the unsinkable tied her with a zip Lock in basement with no food , no toiletry, nothing for weeks before going a way to an disclosed location i bet he was planning to kill poppy so poppy had to use the energy left to unzip the locks and escape thats what her instinct told her that 'its now or never !! she was lucky she managed to break a window that the evil man forgot to shut and thats how poppy got out very weak , asking for help from neighbor's with some shutting door for her one neighbor called the authority and thats how poppy was rescued from a monster who i though was an angel. the case was referred to the immigration authority and poppy was taken to hospital and had restrain order from the monster who was later arrested and charged with human endangerment the case is still active and on going, poppy was left mentally damaged she has been in several server mental patient facility unit were she is going through therapy that has helped her get back to her foot. I'm happy that she managed to escape try to imagine what would have happend to her without her family knowing what happend to their girl. ever since i read poppy's story on my email i have been having monolog about those girls that went abroad and never contact their family backhome for years may be they were killed because of GBV that nobody knows about. my advice to women and girls never ignore the red flags I know they are always there but we ignore them because we desperate to travel abroad , remember abroad you don't have a family, you don't have a social life , you know nobody all you have in you is living with a stranger your a lone and lonely going through culture shock so your an easy pray to manipulate , to beat ,to rape , abuse to mentally torcher . desperation and poverty drives women to be slaves in the name of being married to a man living abroad. never ignore red flags in your relations because that one slap might end up killing you or ruining your mental health forever . GBV violence come in very many ways its our responsibility as women to speak up without fear , rather divorce the monster before it consume your precious life ,there is no spare part to life if you get hurt you will be living with trauma for the rest of your life if you only lucky to survive it , poverty stinks because it do make women do things that are not worth doing . society too should stop pressuring women to act tough even in situations that will consume your mental health and life . poppy my friend is never the same woman after surviving GBV from the hands of a monster that loved her.