Concluding Self Care ....Self love Story

This is the conclusion of my Story i wrote on women taking time out to care about themselves no matter what we are struggling with.

This story actually happened in Ghana years back with one of the women in my women support group.

In the first story, i stopped where i succeeded in getting this particular lady who always looked sad and secluded herself from other women during our meetings; booked a private meeting with me.

Her name was Ajoah!

When we finally met one on one without the other ladies, i said to her quietly-

Adjoah... this meeting isn't about questioning you or judging you about who you are because, you have the right to choose who you want to be. I reached out to you because, i observed how lonely and sad you feel every time we met. You hardly talk or discuss with other women, always sat far away from other women and hardly smile or laugh when others did and i was so concerned about you. Our meetings were supposed to uplift and support each other but you always felt withdrawn and unhappy....why?

For the first time since she came in, i saw her bite her lips, her body started to shiver and i was even getting scared she wasn't going to talk at all but suddenly she said- Jackie, no one not even my mother, sisters have ever shown so much love concern or even care to know if i exixt or not talk less if am happy...no one cares if am happy so why should i be happy?

God, i got kindda of curious and confused at the same time. I said- Adjoah you are married right? She said -yes.. Jackie but i don't want to talk about my marriage. I said- Why not?

She said- because my family pushed me into a marriage which i was not intrested in and i am so angry with everyone and every thing around me.

I said- ok...

You said - your mother, sisters never care if you were happy, how about your father and husband?

My father is dead and my husband abandoned me after i hit him with a stick breaking his head for abusing me sexually.

I said- Ok...

So Where are you staying right now? Did you have any children with him? (At this time she started crying ...heavily and i stopped talking and allowed her to let it all out.)

When she stopped crying, she looked up to me and said- i had no children because i had a miscarriage due to abusive behavior of my husband. Right now, am staying with my mother and Sisters but they are angry with me for leaving my marriage and hardly care about me.

I asked her - What do you really want to do for yourself right now?

She said- she doesn't like how she looks, (she was overweight) so she said, she would like to feel good about herself, but so angry about everything that has happened to her and she has no zeal to help herself. She was tired of living.

It dawned on me that this lady here has been battling with depression and if nothing is done fast to pull her out of this dark stage she was, it might lead to a sad end.

I am not Ghanian but was on official duty in Ghana so i thought of what i and the other women in the group could do just to get her start taking interest in taking care of herself, believing in herself and looking foward to becoming a happy person who have a great opportunity to live life to the fullest.

I met with a couple of women in the group who are Ghanaians, shared her concerns with them and they were happy to intervene.

Long story cut short, after couple of months we were able to help Adjoah turned into a vibrant, charming and active happy woman who turned out to be so talented in the fashion world.

I brought up this story because, we see people around us with similar experiences, someone experiencing such issues could even be reading this and wondering how could i get out of this rut, thinking that life has no meaning for her any more.....

If you have such persons around you, please reach out because, they hardly tell you what is rumbling inside of them and it could get to th he stage of suicide. If you are experiencing such, don't ever forget that loving yourself genuinely creates ripples of great opportunities for you to experience the good things life has to offer to you. It doesn't matter what pains you are going through, decide to take care of yourself, appreciate the fact that you are among the living and take a bold stand to be HAPPY no matter the odds facing you💕