Echoes of My heart

To my daughter

I have lived most of my life with the fear of certain things repeating themselves and trying to rewrite stories that were really not mine and while at it I lost so much happiness because I went too far, built walls around, and didn’t realize when to stop. Trying to rewrite any story might be the fastest bullet you can take to terminate yours. Don’t sink your ship while trying to adjust the sails of another boat whose owner doesn’t dwell in it anymore.

I hope you will be free from fear and won’t let my mistakes define how you live your life. My heart and soul scream I want freedom from trying to correct people’s mistakes and letting them affect my life negatively. I pray you realize what fills the emptiness in your life and heart and learn to keep it alive longer and real because in it you will find happiness.

Hey, champ, I am your mother but that doesn’t mean I am always right. I can only guide you through life but can't dictate, live it for you, or protect you from it entirely. Darling child make your mistakes and learn from them because it is through those mistakes you can learn and get it right in the next attempt. Live fully on your terms, don’t live my life because in as much as it seems perfect being your mother it doesn’t mean it is the life for you, do better. Face your fears on time so they don’t haunt you.

Refuse to be a shadow of me, follow your passion, chase your dreams be your authentic self. Don’t let the pressure of visualizing my dreams kill the dreamer in you. Be willing to risk the unusual so you won’t have to settle for the ordinary. I will support you and be glad I raised an honorable child whose thirst for independence and legacy can’t be compromised until she achieves it.

Fake nothing in life, it is expensive and will drain you because you will be more concerned about how you will maintain that. Nobody cares so don’t fake to impress because it will not only deprive you of true happiness and sanity but will scare off your destiny helpers because you gave an impression of success while there was none.be content with what you have and you will pave the way for more.

You will never be perfect but I will be glad if you stand your ground when your principles get tried. You might lose bonds because losing yourself is not an option. Define and set boundaries, people must not hurt you at your own expense. Whenever your peace of mind is at risk always choose yourself even if it means taking a walk. Attach purpose/reason to it and you will learn to embrace things as they come and let go when need be.

And when that day you want revenge finally comes, just look at yourself in the mirror. In it, there will be a reflection of you and that is something, you aren’t then, so walk with your shoulders high away from the bitterness and anger so you can live all over again. Life is too short to use half of it planning revenge, smile at those who hurt you, and leave them thinking of what might hit them or what you’re thinking.

Before drawing assumptions ask, assuming kills a lot in the moment and future. Asking doesn’t make you nosy but leaves you an informed person with a better understanding and clue of how to react and handle what's on the ground. Exercise empathy and avoid being judgmental because there is always a reason why people are the way they are, we are all beautifully flawed, and even the most beautiful roses have thorns, and humans are already hurting, so be humane so as it heals the wounds.

And when that day when you won't give up on yourself comes remember those whose life/breath gave up on them . They wanted to be better and fulfilled, but life turned out to be too short for them. Do anything and everything now, tomorrow is not guaranteed. Fail at it because you can always give it another shot but don't let regret be your story. Darkness is part of the story it is what makes the success worth it, I mean navigating through it and becoming a victor. Go champ, better days are worked for, they won't come for you!

Fight longer even when the breath seems to be failing you, fight because you refuse to give up on the pieces of you that need to be recollected. You are someone, 's inspiration and you can't put out the fire you ignited in them but most importantly fight because God is not done with you, and your purpose is not yet done. Fight but never fight lost battles, I mean not worth fighting for.

When life occurrences overwhelm you just come back home to Mama, let nobody convince you don’t need to go back home when you feel the need to, because if you don’t come home to unwind, rethink, and strategize the possibility you will still come back home but this time drowned in depression or a coffin. Coming back home doesn’t make you a failure rather a hero who realizes that even heroes break and that way you will get back on your feet better and energized.

Suicide is not an option or a solution; things will not always be smooth but don’t give up on yourself. Life experiences, desires, dreams, and ambitions should give you a reason to fight another day. Your imperfections should push you to be better and not weigh down your perfection. Dark days don’t last forever and your input in the world is worth fighting another day for. Let your frustrations be your motivation to do better.

I mean the best for you my child, and pray when we finally meet I will be the mother you would pray to have in life. I will guide you how best I can and on days when I break and words and decisions fail me I hope I will still be that mother for you. I yearn for your arrival dear friend, my daughter, and my confidant; my greatest achievement will be raising you to be the best version of yourself.

Your mama to be, Purity.