Jan 21, 2015
this is a story about Javanese (one of largest tribe in Indonesia) women...
Call her Ita, a 28 years women live with her husband named Surya and Ajeng, her daughter
her marriage was not in a good condition from the beginning. Surya asked Ita to quit from her job and be a real housewife. it doesn't matter for her, because Surya has several reason:
-if a women is being a wife already, her life is depend on her husband
-husband will be ashamed if his wife tired and stress of work
-other will judge the husband because allowing his wife to work
But not too long after she quit and getting pregnant, many problem comes up....
Surya is still not having a permanent job with permanent salary, so when Ita need money she will ask her parents to cover her financial problem.
Surya is always get mad when Ita doing her freelance job, even shes work at home as a graph designer to cover family's need.
Surya is type of traditional man...who don't want his wife achieving everything top of him, wife is should depend on her husband, can't be independent. Ita's responsibilities are around her house, should look pretty when attending wedding ceremony and being nicest front of her husband, even Ita is not willing to.
So what do you think about this story...
This women role is culturally bounded
Even now we can see flexibility in applying the role, but there are still so many women likes Ita in Java.
Hard to face it and not easy to asking the women emancipation here...