Let Her Choose!!!



They don't think past you not having a boyfriend or being in some kind of relationship, some even go as far as assuming or wanting to force answers out of you. I've had so many encounters...and I hate it.



 For starters it is not your damn business, you could ask my veiws on the world, my standpoint of relevant things that affect our society, you could get to know me, her outside the confines of a boyfriend. 



You guys don't ask your fellow guy you just met like 5mins ago, dude do you have a girlfriend, but you feel entitled to get to ask a female 2mins into meeting her if she has a boyfriend.



#My encounter today.... My house was too comfy, coupled with the weather it was extra comfy, I had to get out of the house to get some productivity out of the day; packed my bags, even carried a water bottle, cause I knew I was going to stay out long...and as my tradition is, I have to get snacks first. I entered a shop to get it.



#you might say I read meaning into things or I do too much, maybe if we had read meaning into things earlier, the ground would be leveled for both sexes# 



back to my encounter- one talk led to another....the next thing I heard was, you're in Unical(my college), of course, after some backup questions, he said, you're sharp, of which I said thank you. Then the question, do you have a boyfriend. I was like why would you ask me that, then the assumption set in, ofcourse no need to ask because you have; it is written on my face na mtcheww.



As usual, I became frustrated with the conversation, maybe he noticed my frustration; then he dropped the bomb, at this point I really needed to get out of there; he said, na so one girl do enter menopause, and he  continued, *he wouldn't stop talking* after school na settlement na. 



FYI- settlement, he didn't mean get a good job, start a good business...show the world your potential, give the world your best, make something out of you; he didn't mean that, he meant get married. Marriage is not a bad thing, i love marriages(ish); my point is....



Don't make that the only narrative for her, if that's her narrative, let her choose for herself, don't impose or suggest. The narrative for the guys, go to school, get something tangible for yourself, get married; the narrative for the ladies, go to school, get married-why skip that step.



let her make her story, let her choose her narrative....and keep your ideas, questions and suggestions to your damn self.... #Gezai_Enya 

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