OUR PARENTS DESERVES OUR LOVE WHILE THEY ARE STILL ALIVE, EVEN WHEN THEY ARE NO MORE♥️

There is no moment devastating like losing your loved one, especially your parent. We have time on earth to live with them, let us make the best out of it. As much as they have taken care of us let's also take care of them. As they age they reach a point where by they can no longer assist themselves on daily needs like nature calls, walking, cooking for themselves, bathing themselves, going for medical check ups and taking proper treatment and well on time , even talking and hearing goes. Where they are staying must also be clean, tidy and healthy.

It is upto us, their children to make sure that they don't suffer. Those who are capable can send them to care homes, but some can stay with them at home, maybe hire professional care givers or just the family provides the care needed. In most cases when our parents are ill, they need lots of medical stuff to assist like wheelchairs, crutches, diapers, food supplements because their appetite drops every now and then, and also particular meals according to their condition diet.

Some families are financially stable to assist their elders, but some are not, hence i advice us all to check with our government healthcare services and social workers at our based areas, they may help with a thing or two. My father was paralysed for years, stroke until he was bedridden. He was assisted with a wheelchair, crutches, medication, physio, diapers, clinical gloves, washing powders, food, regular check ups by the doctor. He was a home based care patient, cared by my mom and the family. We tried to get him other things he needed, proper warm clothes, proper food to eat, transport to his regular check ups. Before he was bedridden we would massage him, take him on walks, lift him up when he failed to stand up on his own. We would keep him company, chat around him and laugh so that he doesn't get devastated by his condition.

Well let me say, it was never easy, even on us, it was tough. I remember when it would be just me and him at home and he wants to get off bed to walk down to the living room.... I will be assisting him to stand up, and i would fall. Then we would laugh at that, and we would keep on trying until we managed.

So the time came when he had to give up his soul(27/12/22) , this is the moment I encourage us all to remember that, our parents and even us, won't live forever. We must have funeral covers, this shows self care and care for your family. It makes things easier to burry your loved one without struggles, especially financially. You can't be crying for your loss at the same time crying for funeral arrangements which are devastating. Open funeral covers, they are very important. Give your loved ones a great send off. That's love on its own. For me and for you and our parents and the rest of the family.

(The pictures above are of my parents, mom feeding my dad on his home sick bed... the other one is of my father's casket covered with flowers on his burial day)

Much love♥️

Babedi Samakabadi FACES Reality

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