Struggles build you up. Be focus at your goals… build your mind set, courage strengths you
Oct 30, 2023
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Lovetoorich
Nigeria
Joined Oct 30, 2023
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Story of my life. I lost my father at the age of 17yrs…. I just got admission into uni. Guess what! 😃 my mother was broke at that time, because she had buried my pops…. So the struggle begins for me and my siblings. I got admitted into college no money for tuition fees, no money for campus fee. Was stranded, no home, no food. I started living in a boy’s camp, that was the only way. guy's usually have soft spots for ladies. They allowed me to live with them. It was really challenging because I had to woke up every 3:00am to take my bath… so that I can get some privacy… I had to do that for the next 1yrs . It was really challenging for me because, any time I missed bathing for 3am . I will have to go to school without having my bath. I cried every day, with the challenge of feeding, paying my tuition fee . I started cleaning and washing for the boys in other to save up money for my tuition fee. I lived my life every day on hope and dreams. I prayed and believed that God was going to sent someone down to me. Just to bail me out of my pains and struggles. My mother had called me to come back home that she can’t afford my schooling at the moment. But, knowing fully well that I might ended up not attending college. I refused to go back home . I had to clean and wash till I summed up my tuition fee. Some time I get lucky from the boys, eating free off them. They had to cover up for me to keep living in the boys hostel. I swear it was so dramatic, some times they hid me from the school supervisor not to get expelled. Life was unbearable knowing that I depended on free food from the boys, one day I was almost sexually abused from one of the boys. I wake up every night to study in the school hall , so I can refund the textbooks I took from my colleague. But, that very night I was unlucky I got trapped and almost rape but this young God fearing guy came to my rescue. And that was how I escape from being rapped. I wake up that very morning with a heavy heart, and decided to leave the boy’s hostel. Since it’s wasn’t safe for me. That young God fearing nice guy took me to his cousin sister who lived alone off school camp. She was from a wealthy family, so they could afford her living alone around the school premises. I met with her and beg if I could stay for a while, but she said on a condition that I will always keep her room, clothes, dishes clean and also cook for her. I didn’t have a problem with that because I needed a place to stay badly. I then started working for her free because she was accommodating me. I wouldn’t make money from the boys again. Because I was always cleaning and cooking for my flatmate who was accommodating me. She treated me so bad. it was the most terrible time in my life. She took advantage of me being homeless and living up for myself to actually be working as her House help. I barely eat her food. She had a 45 years old married man coming to pay her visits that was when things got worse when her friend started spending the nights over and he wanted to have a threesome with me. I cried and ran from the hostel. I went to meet a colleague of mine, and I pleaded with her to help me with her space that I won’t stay more than one month and she agreed I was so happy I went back to my old place and packed my things. I took it to my colleague’s Room. I started living with her. she was my classmates so she actually treated me nice. I had no issues I was so happy I had my life with me and I was like God has done this for me only for that fateful night I realize she was a lesbian , she was into girls so she pleaded for me to Make out with her, and that she will take care of me. While in school but I refuse because I know the background and how my mom raised me. I said this is not what I wanted I just wanted to come to school to graduate with good grades. And have a good job I don’t want to be among those spoiled brats. So she started acting up. She never asked me to leave, but she was always ignoring me not listening to me when I’m talking, not paying attention to whatever I have to say to her so I became sad because it got to me. she was the only one that had showed me love again, from after when I left the boys, I didn’t know what to say. I was just praying to God almighty to change her for me and make her reason with what I was saying. I was ready to change her , but it was quite difficult because she’s a grown-up woman she never wanted to be changed , she said that she was brought up that way. was abused by her Aunt and she can’t do anything about it because she can’t feel men. she doesn’t have a thing for Guys so that was it with her. me knowing why I came to school, to study, And I never took that for granted. never deviated from my focus always went to classes, always write my exams and glory be to God I made my exams. Luckily for me I was able to pay my school fee.