Who is Amina-Bianca ?

Based on a True Story

You can’t choose the family you are born into. In my country, South Africa, if your skin tone is even slightly darker than white—think eggshell—you might be asked to remove your hijab so others can "identify" your ethnicity.

My mother was South African, and my father was from Chile. Their cultures were very different. My father had a fascination with exotic women, and my mother used to tell me she married him for his "green card." That confused me—there’s no such thing as a green card in South Africa.

As a child, I didn’t understand the concept of race until I was 13. Before then, I thought classmates who looked Latino were just like me. I later discovered that we weren’t all the same, but I naturally connected better with African and non-white people. Being around white people often made me feel inferior; they seemed to look down on me and my brother.

My childhood was far from easy, shaped by challenges from my parents and stepparents. But I used those hardships as lessons, shaping my understanding of what not to become.

In my career, I worked hard and excelled, yet the path was marred by betrayal:

• JOHN DOE, a man I trusted, stole company funds. When I pursued legal action, I was accused of harassment.
• BOB DOE, who posed as a devout and trustworthy person, took funds and equipment from my business. Again, I faced false harassment charges when I tried to hold him accountable.
• During the pandemic, José Narainen, a partner in my Mozambique company, ignored my requests for transparency. When I traveled to investigate, I uncovered shocking mismanagement, no different from Wayne’s behavior.
• DOLLY DOE a client, caused me emotional harm with cruel insults, calling me fat and stupid, and insisting no man would marry me. All this because I sought to settle a payment dispute. He still denies owing me the money.

On top of these professional struggles, my personal life brought its own challenges. At 35, I became pregnant by a man who lied about being married. Having believed I couldn’t conceive, this was a shock. Shame and depression followed. Yet, this unexpected child brought a turning point in my life.

In 2015, I reverted to Islam—not for a man or a relationship, but for myself and my son. Islam gave me clarity and taught me that while we may plan and try to control life, true control is beyond us.

By 2016, I started rebuilding myself. I realized I had been treated as a resource for others to exploit, a role I was determined to leave behind. At 44, I made a life-changing decision to become a herbalist. Having experienced depression, anxiety, and stress, I chose to reject addictive medications in favor of natural, holistic healing.

Today, I focus on helping women heal emotionally, physically, and mentally. Through traditional healing, I create herbal remedies, CBD-based treatments, and organic cosmetics made from Africa’s natural resources.

I’m also passionate about skills development for women. I want to empower those who’ve been hurt and ensure they never feel as lost or broken as I once did. My mission is to provide tools for healing, growth, and independence, so no woman ever has to endure what I’ve lived through.

My mother passed away in 2023 after being diagnosed with cancer. When I returned to South Africa, she opened up about the truths behind her mistakes and lies. It was a moment of profound reflection for me, as it brought to light the importance of acknowledging and addressing past misunderstandings.

I owe a sincere apology to my Aunt Jane Doe. When she asked me questions and tried to guide me with her wisdom, I was dismissive and arrogant. As children, we are often easily influenced and manipulated by our parents' perspectives, which can cloud our judgment.

This realization shaped how I approached raising my own children. As a single mother playing the dual roles of both mom and dad, I made a conscious decision to flip the script and do things differently.

To others, my advice is clear:

Do not rush into marriage unless you are truly ready.

Avoid having children out of wedlock unless you are prepared for the responsibilities.

Life is challenging enough; prioritize yourself, focus on growth, and strive to become someone you can be proud of.

Taking control of your life and making intentional choices can lead to a more fulfilling future.

Allah will never forsake you Alhamdullilah Aameen