Woman! Empower thyself

The truth still remains, as much as we have women who are working hard to see that the world is a better place, we also have so many young women who still want to fold their arms and wait for a very ‘Rich’ man (their Messiah) who will marry them and take them to their dream land! How can a young woman of the 21st century still have this mentality??? Such women continue to live among us, in Nigeria, in different African nations and the world at large. An African woman must have a different mentality ! You should have your own dreams! Indeed marriage may be good; in the sense that many people are the products of the marriage between their parents, but there is so much more to it! We the mothers of Africa want so much more today; society demands that we must bring a lot more to the table! How do you explain to your boyfriend, fiance or husband that marriage is a partnership in which he is the person that pays the home bills and the children’s school fees, buys the food for the household, while you do practically nothing?

Imagine you are the one who is the man: you pay for everything in the house, you bought the food stuffs, you are the only one working and your wife is not - Only for you to come back from work tired and food is not ready? I do not support the oppression of a woman by a man, especially in a marriage setting, but action speaks louder than voice. Therefore, women must learn to work hard, be independent and contribute meaningfully (especially financially) in their homes. If not, our campaign for women may not be better than a cup of water wasted on a stone.

I have not forgotten the fact that in many relationship/marriages, the reverse is the case i.e. the woman is the breadwinner and the man seems to be doing little or nothing, but this article is directed to women because I want us to keep our own end of the game water proofed.